Have you ever gotten sucked into a relationship with someone who wasn’t good for you? Have you given the benefit of the doubt too many times, and ended up getting tricked? Have you ever felt duped or taken advantage of by someone you trusted?
Sometimes, for the sake of being nice, you may overlook red flags about someone’s personality. Maybe you don’t want to be judgmental or “mean” so you ignore someone’s glaring character flaws and get close to them anyway. Maybe something inside you warns you to keep your distance, but you are compelled to get closer anyway. Then, once you get to close to step away easily, trouble starts and you realize just how bad the person is for you.
People don’t realize they are putting themselves at risk for being used or abused when they ignore their inner warning signs. Sometimes we see the truth a little too late. For the next four weeks, I will be giving pointers on:
1) How to Use your Intuition and Red Flags when it comes to dealing with Users and Abusers
2) How to identify Users and Abusers and their characteristics
3) How to Set necessary boundaries for safety and good self care
4) How to help someone you know who is married to a User or Abuser
I know from first hand experience that ignoring warning signs leads us down a path that is often difficult, sometimes even dangerous to leave. Stiff consequences like empty bank accounts, wounded hearts and stained reputations result from partnering with the wrong people in relationships. Whether business, marriage, family or friendship, making wise relationship choices can save you from further damage.
This week we will start off with one of my most favorite pieces of classic literature- a witty poem that describes the lure of predatory relationships all too clear.